How to Break the Chain of Vicious Circle
Copyright 2005 Flaming Life Coaching INC.
Ever had one of those days, when things just spin out of
control no matter what you do? You have? Welcome to the
club of "life on rotation". Because this is what happens
when vicious circle takes over your life.
This, however, does not have to be. Personally and
professionally, I have found 5 strategies to be most
effective in stopping yourself from going into a catatonic
maze in times of vicious circle. These strategies are
interrelated, and when applied can help you keep your
sanity.
1. Shift your focus by letting go of the problem and not
trying to fix things. There are times when situations are
best left alone temporarily. Your wanting to control a
volatile or calamitous situation when you are overwhelmed
only makes things worse. The best approach is to turn your
attention to other matters and relax.
Getting yourself to relax may be difficult at first when a
problem is gnawing at you. When this happens, take a deep
breath, listen to your intuition and move away from the
scene of tension. Take charge and do what is good for you.
Be creative and take a break!
2. Choose your thoughts carefully. It is only natural that
when things get out of control your thinking gets impaired.
Still, it is important to watch your thoughts and emotions.
For these are powerful energy which can constrict or open
your path to finding new solutions, depending on how you
use them.
I have great admiration for people who are able to remain
calm and collected in the heat of recurring catastrophes.
These people often radiate a special glow which seems to
single them out.
I once asked a medical assistant of a colleague, how she
was always able to remain poised in the midst of all the
drama that went on 24/7 at work. She smiled at me and
replied that when she was young her mother always reminded
her that she could choose the way she wanted to see things,
especially in difficult times. She said that knowledge was
what got her through primary school. Because the kids were
often cruel to her, since she never new her father. So
instead of thinking herself depraved, she chose to think of
herself as being privileged to have the special love and
attention of her mother all to herself!
3. Change and raise your vibration by focusing on what
gives you joy.
When you choose thoughts that support you and your
condition, the built up pressure dissipates and you are
more at ease. This makes it easier to raise your inner
vibration from this position.
Connect with the source of life by remembering all the
goodness surrounding you and feel grateful for being alive
and well.
Laugh out loudly at yourself, sing off key… etc., be silly!
Do whatever gets you into a natural high vibrant feeling
of total bliss. Fully feel the excitement of the moment as
your body tingles with renewed energy.
4. Be open to others. Invite other people into your life by
having a giving heart. Share your knowledge and joy with
people who want them.
When you are caught in a web of conflicting thoughts, it is
easy to get wrapped up in yourself and your problem. This
is understandable, but it is the least helpful way to
finding solutions. "You cannot fight your way out of a
cyclone when you're sitting right in the middle of it's
wailing noise" is a favorite expression of one of my great
mentors.
Learn to wait for things to quiet down and then connect
with other people for comfort and nurturing. Everyone has
his story to tell and by sharing your story with others,
you'll find comfort in knowing that you're not alone. This
is a fact of life which we often forget.
5. Say 'no' firmly when necessary and move on. Leave behind
whatever is not serving you for something new.
Sometimes we may experience moments of vicious circle in
our lives, because we refuse to see what is happening to
us. A change may be overdue and it is time to move on. If
you have ever fought hard to hold on to something and tried
various angles to succeed, all to no avail. Maybe you
realized that the more you tried the more calamity you
encountered? Try this.
Stop trying and give yourself the permission to quit. A Few
days later, observe how you feel. My guess is that you will
feel much better and more in control. This is the state you
want to attain and maintain to break the chain of any
vicious circle.
Be consistent in implementing these strategies, and very
soon you'll find that no vicious circle will ever be able
to hold you captive again.
Kunbi Korostensky, N.D., Psychotherapist and Certified Life
Coach is specialised in supporting people in transition,
turn the changes in their lives into invigorating joy and
happiness. View her ebooklet Top 10 holistic Questions to
Embrace Change and Grow at:
http://www.embracingchanges.com.BooksandCDs.html
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