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Dating A Professional Single
John Jones
At one time or another and maybe in some people's cases all the
time we've dreamed about dating a rich guy or gal. You know the
successful lawyer or doctor or the on the edge entrepreneur.
It's that perfect scene we play in our head that allows us to
see things just the way we want them to be but in reality
dating a professional single may not be quite so picture
perfect. Now I don't mean that in a negative sense I mean that
more in a realistic, scheduling, goal reaching, aggressive
personality sense.
What is a professional single?
I guess in technical terms it would be any single person who
holds a "white collar" job. A business owner, a executive, a
doctor, a lawyer, I think you get the idea. Someone who
probably has a college degree, maybe several, someone who is
driven to succeed, who probably enjoys the finer things in
life, who doesn't like excuses but relishes results. A person
who wants to make the most out of their professional life. They
are not satisfied with a 9 to 5 career but are instead looking
for every opportunity to succeed as far as they can in their
given field. Does that make them a bad person? Does that make
them a person who cares for no one but themselves? Hardly, in
fact the world needs driven individuals like a professional
single. Can you imagine where we would be if the Romans had not
had so many driven people or if the Egyptians had decided that
thinking big was too much? I'm not trying to get into a history
lesson or morality debate here, I'm just showing what a person
who is trying to get the most out of themselves can do. A
single professional is certainly a person trying to get the
most out of themselves.
What are the downfalls to dating a professional single?
Like any relationship involving two people you will always have
downfalls so don't be under the impression that dating a
professional single will be any better or worse than dating the
non-professional single. Those factors lie more in who the
person is not what their career is. I mean if you date a jerk,
you date a jerk. Whether he has on a $1500 suit or a pair of
Levi Overalls, he's a jerk. OK, so what are the downfalls to
dating a professional single?
Time away from home - This means time away from you
The job is always on their mind - You might be out on the
perfect dinner date but if a big deal is in the works you
should not be surprised if the cell phone rings and it's
answered.
Perfectionism - They may not be the tidiest person or remember
to bring flowers but in some way all highly driven
professionals are perfectionists
Job is first - Can you play second fiddle? Although this may
not be true in every sense but in many ways the job will come
first.
How to avoid the downfalls of dating a professional single.
Time away from home - Of course they're going to be going to
the office everyday, maybe out of town once a week or more and
maybe even over a weekend in fact if they are very driven, you
can expect all of these and more. Late hours, early mornings,
numerous days in which you may not see each other and might not
even speak one on one. The remedy? Communicate. Have an ongoing
calendar, it won't be perfect as things change but it's one
tool in communicating. If you can see a schedule it will help
you understand what's going that week or day. Always talk once
a day. Both of you must be committed to speaking to each other
daily. It might be for only 5 minutes at 2 a.m. but it will
make a difference.
The job is always on their mind - In every persons professional
career especially early on they are given responsibility to get
the job done. This may entail them following up on every detail
at all hours of the day and night. You must understand that this
is part of working your way to the top and even more importantly
the professional you are dating must understand that although
they might have to take a call at dinner they should keep it as
brief as possible and let their colleagues know that a call
should only be made if it is extremely important or critical in
nature. Communication once again plays a role in the
relationship, for all parties involved.
Perfectionism - How hard is it to be perfect? Well since no one
that I've ever met is, it must be impossible. That being said we
probably all have idiosyncrasies that some would consider a
trait of perfectionism. Professional singles are no different,
they must have details or actions within their jobs that
require perfectionism otherwise the product or service they
produce would be substandard which is not the mark of a
successful professional. Take the perfectionism in stride and
recognize you probably have some traits that drive your partner
nuts. Identify, recognize and adapt. Those three words will go
along way in helping you and him or her overcome your faults.
The job is first - Ouch, how can someone put something before
me? Guess what, this happens whether the person is a
professional single or a everyday man. Something's always going
to be important to someone and there may come a time when they
have to choose you over that activity or function. Although
this is a very black and white statement the truth is there is
no easy answer for this question. In the case of a job you
would have to look at each incident to determine the worth. For
example if you had a date planned at 7 and you get a call at
6:45 that something came up at work it's ok to be upset but
more importantly you need to judge the moment. Without being a
nagger you should find out what is so important that it can't
wait until tomorrow, if the answer is valid then you must put
it in context with the relationship overall. You knew going in
that the career of the person was a big part of their life so
you should accept that with that commitment to career comes
some sacrifice on your end. However if you find out the reason
for the cancellation is not a 911 emergency but a 411 pizza
call then you should re-assess the person immediately. This
would be a case of someone who is not honest, respectful or
committed to having a relationship.
Let's summarize: Dating a professional single will probably
entitle you to a lifestyle that leans towards the finer things
in life and would probably ensure a future of financial
stability and a golden retirement. Dating a professional single
will also bring you many hours of you time, interrupted plans
and until those retirement years a backseat to the demands of a
successful career. If you are a person that can see a person for
what they are and accept them for those strengths and faults and
if that person meets what you deem as the perfect mate then
dating a professional single is probably the best thing you
will ever do.
About The Author: John Jones writes dating articles from a
professional single standpoint. His website is
http://professionalsingles.netfirms.com
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