Ten Things You Can Do Right Now to Find Your Perfect Mate
Copyright 2006 David Steele
1. Start by losing the losers
If you want to find your soul mate you must be available
and not involved with people that aren't right for you.
Staying available is hard for a lot of singles, but
necessary for finding the love of your life.
2. OK, available now? Next... are you "ready?"
Any unfinished business that might sabotage your next
relationship? Legal, financial, emotional, kids, ex,
employment? Get it handled!
3. Next, make a list of your top five "requirements"
Requirements are non-negotiable deal-breakers; what you
must have or must not have in your relationship. Vow not to
get involved with anyone that doesn't meet all five. Share
your list with your closest friends and make them swear to
tell you the truth and lock you up if you get off-track.
4. Good job. Now, let's get crystal clear about this
"dating" thing:
If you want to avoid the deadly dating traps, focus on
these Four Steps for Conscious Dating:
Step One: Scouting (find compatible people to meet-
internet, through friends, getting out there, etc)
Step Two: Sorting (quickly determine if someone you meet
has potential)
Step Three: Screening (collect enough information to know
if your requirements would be met)
Step Four: Testing (date a few times and compare the
reality with the information)
Repeat as needed.
That's it... nothing more, nothing less. No "trial
relationships," no fun flings; just these four steps.
5. Get support
Don't do this alone. Dating can be scary and isolating, and
your friends and family can be your safety net to help you
stay on track.
6. Work it!
Most people meet their soul mate through someone they
already know, so let people know you're looking and network
like crazy.
7. Be positive and happy
Success breeds success and misery loves company... your
choice.
8. Be the Chooser!
Go after what you want and don't simply react to what or
who chooses you.
9. Be assertive!
If you settle for less, you'll get less. Ask for what you
want and say "No" to what you don't want.
10. Live a great life NOW while you're single. "If you
build it, they will come" (from the movie "Field of
Dreams").
Finding your perfect mate is a combination of working on
yourself so that you're ready to attract and keep this
wonderful person, and being proactive in your life to go
after what you want instead of waiting for it to come to
you, or hoping it will just "happen."
Best wishes in your journey to find the love of your life
and the life that you love.
About the Author:
David Steele, MA, LMFT is founder of Relationship Coaching
Institute and author of the ground-breaking new book for
singles Conscious Dating: Finding the Love of Your Life in
Today's World.
http://www.ConsciousDating.com
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