The "Secret of Letting Go"
Guy Finley
Question: Can you help shed some light on why we are here in this life?
GF - All of our deeper personal experiences eventually come to
reveal some lesson that
we needed to learn. This process of events that leads us to the
discovery of their cause proves both the existence of order
and purpose. The outcome of each experience turns out to be
for personal growth. Therefore, it is safe to say we are here on earth,
in these bodies, to grow in wisdom and the love that is an outgrowth of it.
Question: In conversations with others, I find myself insisting on
being "right." Why should I care so much that my ideas about life
are understood by everyone?
GF- Be willing to try to understand the moment instead of needing
to be understood in it. You will lose yourself, and you will
begin to have the great bliss of disappearing from your own
life. At first, as you are willing to work to understand others
more than you want to be understood by them, it seems a
diminishing experience. But you will grow through this kind of
self-negation into a new sense of yourself that actually includes
all of life. You will begin to have a completely different
relationship with everyone around you because you are no longer
bringing yourself first and foremost into every relationship.
Question: Could you give some insight into loneliness and
how to abolish it?
GF- Loneliness is not the problem. Fear of loneliness is what drives
us into wrong relationships, including despairing of ourselves.
Think about it: The feeling of being alone has no negative
content in and of itself. But as the mind works on it, and brings
to bear all of the past negative experiences about being lonely,
suddenly loneliness turns from a lamb into a lion. We can never
be free of any negative state without being willing to meet it, to
see it fully. Negative states continue to win the day and our lives
because they know we won't look at their face. One great
spiritual secret is that if we will dare negative states to do their
worst to us, God will take our defense. This means we
will see through that state.
Question: Without reverting to their lower level, how do you
get people to stop making their hurtful, cut-down remarks?
GF- One of the reasons people pounce on or attack us the way
they do, is that they are feeding off of us in many different ways,
especially when we return a negative energy. For an amazing
experience, try sometime consciously refusing your own negativity
in the face of someone else's. Just go silent, and then watch
what happens to the person who attacked you. The odds are, you
will watch this person have a change of heart right in the
middle of their attack. And even if they don't change their
behavior, your new behavior will leave you feeling better
about yourself.
Question: How do you deal with family members and people close to
you who refuse to look at themselves? They blame others consistently
for their negativity. These people really upset me.
GF- You must realize that the only way it is possible someone else's
negativity can trouble you is because it does indeed set off something
of a similar nature within you. This is all under law, having to
do with sympathetic vibrations and resistance. Be that as it may,
work as best you can to be as watchful as you can around those who
are negative. Spiritual Gold is there.
You're invited to send your questions to guy@newconnexion.net or
to Guy Finley, P.O.Box 10, Merlin, OR 97532. For more information
on Guy's books and tapes, or to sign up for a free weekly Key Lesson,
visit www.guyfinley.com
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