Successful Online Flirting: Six Tips for Men
Chonticha Marijne
What works for "brick and mortar" flirting will also work for online
flirting. Flirting is an art form and all good online dating
relationships begin with successful flirting!
Effective flirting really is a skill that requires you to be confident
without being over the top. If you overstep your boundaries, it's very
likely that the lady will think that you are "slimy". If you hold back,
it's probable that she'll find you "wimpy".
The challenge is to ride that fine line between being slimy and wimpy.
You will also need to do it all online without having the benefit of
eye contact or body language.
All you have is a computer, Internet access and your membership to an
online dating site, right?
1. Have fun! Be light-hearted, upbeat, funny and entertaining. Keep it
playful. You'll make her look forward to emailing or chatting with you
again.
2. Ooze confidence. Successful flirts have a positive outlook on life.
You need to transmit that "feel good" factor. An optimistic attitude
and confidence will attract women to you like a fragrant flower
attracts bees.
3. Compliment her... and you should do it often, but be subtle and
sincere. Mention her great smile, or the cute dog in her photo, or that
you admire the fact that she plays the guitar. Nothing will open doors
for you like making her feel good about herself. She will be eager to
spend more time with you and to meet you and if she pays you a
compliment in return, always respond with a "thank you". Under no
circumstances be self-deprecating - it will just make you look wimpy.
4. Listen to her and then listen some more. Pay attention to what she
has to say and ask her appropriate questions at the right time. This
will
encourage her to open up and talk about herself. Make her feel that she
is truly interesting and that you are interested in her. This will work
wonders for your budding relationship!
5. Don't be rude. Flirting does not give you the right to be sexually
explicit nor does it mean that you should take offense if the lady
doesn't respond to you. If she isn't interested, save yourself the
trouble and move on to your next prospect. If you find that you're
receiving many rejections, you will want to reconsider your approach.
6. Send an email after you have chatted. This is the same as sending a
thank-you note after receiving a gift and it is vital to successful
flirting.
Flirting is the first step to a successful relationship and it should
be fun and never a chore! However, your aim is not to spend too much
time online, but to head for that first date so that you can test
whether there is real chemistry between you. If the flirting has gone
well, she'll be open to meeting you. If she's not interested, move on
to the next candidate. You'll notice that you're getting better at it
each time and before you know it, you'll have met your match!
Chonticha Marijne enjoys writing about the challenges and dynamics of
online dating. For more of her contributions, visit her blog at
http://TheOnlineDatingBlog.com
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