What's on Your Inner TV?
By Margaret Paul
What’s playing on your inner TV? Your inner TV is the screen in
your mind upon which you create various scenarios. Perhaps the
channel is “Reliving the Past.” Maybe it’s “Controlling the
Future.” Is your channel on “Obsessive Thinking” where you are
ruminating over and over about a situation or about how you want
to handle something?
Our mind tends to go on and on making up stuff, as if what it is
thinking is always the truth. However, the mind has been deeply
programmed since childhood to think and believe in ways that
often have nothing to do with truth.
Truth is that which comes from the source of truth, which is
Spirit. We are able to access truth when we are present in this
very moment with a deep desire to learn about truth and love.
When we are present to this moment - to our inner experience and
our surroundings - we are present with Spirit, so Spirit is able
to communicate with us. When our deepest desire is to be present
with the truth, love and reality of this moment, we stop our
obsessive or programmed thinking, which is always a way to
control. When we are present in this moment, we have surrendered
to Spirit. We have let go of control and are in faith that we are
being guided and supported in our highest good. We don’t need to
put our limited mind in charge because we know that we will
receive whatever messages we need from our Guidance. Our inner TV
So, is your inner TV on or off? How often is your inner TV on the
For example, let’s say that you know that you need to speak with
your boss about a problem you are having with another employee.
You probably spend some time thinking about what you’re going to
say. If you’re on the control channel, then your wounded self has
possession of the remote control of your inner TV. On this
channel you are thinking about how to make your point, how to be
heard and understood, how to win, how to be right, how to
convince, and so on. You might be preparing your defense should
your boss disagree. Perhaps you rehearse this over and over,
rerunning the video you have recorded. You want to make sure you
get it right.
If your loving Adult is in charge of the remote control, then
your inner TV is off. Your mind is not coming up with a pre-
recorded video. Instead, you are opening to learning about what
is in your highest good in this particular situation and asking
Spirit for guidance. Is it best to just present the situation and
ask for help or feedback with an intent to learn? Is it best to
state the situation and state what you plan on doing to take care
of yourself? Is it best to try to work it out with the other
employee and not go to your boss at all? When your Adult is in
charge, you are relying on Spirit rather than on your own mind to
determine the action that is in your highest good.
If you do speak with your boss or with the other employee, who is
in charge? Does your wounded self take over out of fear, or are
you loving yourself enough to show up as a loving Adult connected
with your Guidance?
Some of us find ourselves connecting with our Guidance just fine
when we are meditating, dialoguing, creating, working with others
in a supportive capacity. It’s very easy for me to stay connected
with Guidance when I’m working with clients or conducting an
intensive. I couldn’t work any other way because my mind doesn’t
know the answers regarding how to help others, but Spirit does.
Spirit comes through the moment my intent is to be helpful. The
challenge comes in when it’s just about taking care of myself
with myself and within my personal relationships. That’s when my
wounded self wants to grab the remote control. She thinks she can
figure things out to control the outcome with people and events.
She thinks she’s so smart, and she wants to create scenarios in
order to control. I find I need to be vigilant in terms of who is
in charge of the remote control. The minute my wounded self grabs
it and clicks on the control channel, my joy is gone. The moment
I surrender and allow Spirit to guide me, my inner TV is off and
my joy is back. To me, that’s a great motivator, since I love
being in joy!
So, is your inner TV on? If so, what program is on? Who has the
remote - your wounded self or your loving Adult? You might want
to start to notice this. The rewards of switching off your inner
TV are really great!
Margaret Paul, Ph.D. is the best-selling author and co-author of
eight books, including "Do I Have To Give Up Me To Be Loved By
You?", "Do I Have To Give Up Me To Be Loved By My Kids?",
"Healing Your Aloneness", "Inner Bonding", and "Do I Have To Give
Up Me To Be Loved By God?" Visit her web site for a FREE Inner
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