5 REASONS WHY YOU DON'T ACHIEVE YOUR GOALS
Copyright 2003, Julie Plenty
Have you set goals for your business, personal life, career,
finances only to find that you keep hitting a wall and you're
not sure why? You know the saying "if you fail to plan, you
plan to fail". Setting goals is fundamental to being happy
and successful on your terms. You've developed your strategy
- but keep missing the mark. This article gives five reasons
why achieving your goals is proving so elusive.
1. You didn't really want to achieve the goal
Hello? That's right. Beneath your intention was really
something else. Sometimes we set goals in response to
cultural/societal expectations. You may want someone else's
approval ie your partner, parents, colleagues. "If I
do/achieve this then X will love/like/ appreciate me more"
The end result is often self-sabotage, because the goal wasn't
crafted with your true desires in mind. So ask yourself who
or what are you setting this goal for and ensure that it's
something that you want - not for someone else.
2. Your goal clashes with your hidden, negative beliefs
You set a goal with the best of intentions - but it clashes
with unconscious negative beliefs which stop you from following
through. For eg you may decide to start networking to increase
the profile of your business. But guess what? You hate the
idea of promoting yourself in this way, because you have
negative beliefs about what networking involves.
Or you may want to get a better grip on your finances and
attain financial freedom, but you have unconscious beliefs about
rich people (arrogant, uncaring, selfish etc). This beliefs
silently trip you up and then you wonder why you didn't achieve
the goal. Learn how to identify your hidden negative beliefs
and reframe them so that they work for you.
3. Caught by the Value Vampires!
You were had by the Value Vampires. They are the naysayers,
the doom and gloom merchants who influenced you and killed your
idea in its infancy. They planted seeds of doubt in your mind
and then you started to water them! Put up a "no entry" sign
to Value Vampires or don't tell them your aims and goals too
early, before they've had time to develop. You know who these
people are!
4. No real motivation to achieve
Setting a goal should turn you on and get the juices going!
If it's approached as a "should do" "ought to" - you increase
your chances of not achieving it. Link the goal into a bigger
picture, wider vista. Ensure that you begin to feel excited
about it - imagine the possibilities that it opens up. You
can try and set goals in isolation, but they work best when
they're part of something bigger that you're really enthusiastic about.
5. Didn't consider obstacles or challenges
If you didn't consider the possible obstacles/challenges when
setting the goal - this makes it a lot easier to fall back and
give up when you meet difficulties. This isn't an excuse to
make excuses to stop you doing it altogether! Just to take
a slightly detached view of what could get in the way. Ask
yourself what challenges you might face and how you'll deal
with them - offense is the best form of defense!
And............ sometimes you didn't achieve a goal because
things happened which were outside of your control. Shift
happens - the best laid plans go awry. Other things take
priority and it was right that they should do so. Maybe you
weren't ready to achieve that goal or it wasn't right for you.
The most positive aspect of not achieving your goals is what
it teaches you; what you learn about yourself along the way.
Next time you don't achieve a goal - look at the above reasons,
see if any relate to you, learn the lesson and move on.
Julie Plenty is a Personal and Business Coach who suffered from
low self-esteem for years. She developed tips and techniques
to raise her own self-esteem and turn her life around and now
wants to help others do the same.
For more tips visit:
http://www.kickstartyourselfesteem.com/web2/toptips.html and
also sign up for the free ecourse: "5 ways to not improve your self-esteem"
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