Discover the 10 Golden rules on how to conquer your Fear.
Fernando Soave © 2004
We all want happiness and peace of mind. In the
search for these blessings, millions of people
take "happy pills" which they hope will relieve
their tensions and make them feel more cheerful.
Pacifying pills aren't cure-alls. Though
sometimes helpful in individual cases, pacifying
pills aren't cure-alls for the worry habit. Many
of the pills do bring a few hours of apparent
relief from worry. But none of them bring
permanent peace of mind.
To get rid of abnormal fears and worries, you
have to find their cause. Once it's found, you
have to do something about that cause to
eliminate the effects, attempts must be made to
remove the cause.
Here you can discover some methods for conquering
your fear. They have proved helpful to almost
everyone who has tried them.
1. Analyze exactly what you are afraid of.
Any fear that is faced honestly and truthfully
may be conquered, if the source of the fear can
2. Analyze your problem : can something be done ?
This famous prayer embodies a philosophy of life
that has helped change the attitudes of thousands
of persons for the better. So I quote it because
this prayer may change your life.
"God, grant me the serenity To accept the things
I cannot change; The courage to change the things
I can; And the wisdom to know the difference."
If something can be done, do it. If nothing can
be done, stop stewing about it. We must all
accept the inevitable or face mental disaster.
3. Compute the likelihood of the thing you fear
Compare and study statistics of the thing you
fear and you will find the chances of what you
fear are remote.
4. Do the thing you fear.
In order to get rid of fear, we usually have to
expose ourselves over and over again to the
situation we fear.
5. Learn to deal with problems as soon as they
Many of our worries arise from our postponement
of decisions. Don't vacillate. It is better to
make a wrong choice than to tear yourself apart
making and remaking the same decision.
Because where there is undecision, there are
doubts. Where there are doubts, you have conflict.
Where you have conflict, you have symptoms.
The longer your indecisiveness lasts, the more
difficult the problem seems to become. If you
vacillate long enough, your state of anxiety can
There is no recipe for infallibility. The trouble
with most of us is that we want some sure fire
recipe for being right 100% of the time. There is
no such recipe.
6. Overcome your fear of making mistakes.
Many of our fears are based on past mistakes.
Instead of profiting from our failures and
learning from them, we let the memory of them
paralyze us. We might ask ourselves : "What have
I to lose if I act as though I did not fear the
thing I do fear ?"
When you discover you have nothing to lose, you
release within yourself the power of positive
7. Have faith in your ability to solve problems.
Don't judge yourself more harshly then other
people judge you.
8. Don't expect to be completely worry-free.
Some fears and worries have a rational basis
while others are based on exaggeration and
misinterpretation. But only a moron could go
through life completely unconcerned and unworried
every second of every day.
Faced with a situation he fears, every human
being either : a. Runs away from it; b. Faces it
or c. Retreats temporarily, gathers his reserve
strength together and then attacks the situation again.
You can't successfully flee from fear. Running
away from any situation or fear is foolish.
We can, by our small daily actions, learn to
triumph over small fears and so build up the king
of courage that will help us face large
9. Compensate for physical shortcomings instead of
worrying about them.
Don't worry too much about physical shortcomings
that can't be changed. The chances are you have
desirable traits that make your friends and
associates forget those shortcomings completely.
Either those shortcomings can be changed or you
can learn to compensate for them.
10. Have Faith in God's ability to run His
Faith is the key to unlock the unlimited powers
of the mind, the heart, the soul. Faith that you
can win out over disasters and set-backs, Faith
that smashes fear. Faith in the ultimate
realization of your hopes.
Fernando Soave is the author of "Cutting Edge MLM
News." He has been in marketing for 20 years and is
helping individuals succeed online. Visit his site to
find out how you can get free reports.
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